Families and Love

Love is a serious issue and special care is needed to cultivate it and to keep it growing

Month: March 2010

Why we Feel Anger Towards Those we Love Part 2

   We Learn as Babies How to Get What we Want Feeling Anger Seems to Give us Power Feeling anger seems to give us power. We learn as babies how to get what we want. For example, if we cry and raise a big fuss then we get picked up, fed, cuddled and taken care of. As we get a bit older we cry harder, yell and scream, stomp our feet and say “no” when we are told what to do.  Sometimes we end up getting our own way. Maybe mom, dad, or our...

Why we Feel Anger Towards Those we Love. Part 1

    Is There Room for Anger in a Loving Relationship?   Feeling anger towards those we love is not always a good idea. It is also a difficult topic to discuss. However, it is part of our human reality. But is there room for anger in love? Yes and no, anger is a human emotion, so yes, of course we get angry at times. It is normal to feel angry at our loved ones. Anger can range from slight irritation to full blown rage. Many things can...

What it Means to be Sisters. Part 2

  What it Means to be Sisters. What it means to be sisters, is so unique to everyone and I have my own unique story. The sister closest to me in age was the one I didn’t get along with. We fought a great deal although I hardly remember what the fighting was about. She was daddy’s little girl until I came along and I think it was difficult for her to accept. To make matters even worse, she had to baby sit me. Somehow I felt closer to...

What it Means to be Sisters. Part 1

What it Means to be Sisters. I Have Two Older Sisters. What it means to be sisters is unique to everyone, therefore, there are no rules. I have two older sisters, and, as a result of the age difference they were rarely around as I grew into my teen years. There are memories of them being around when I was a little kid, but there are only a select few. They have told me that they babysat me when I was just a baby and I believe they resented it...

Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship. Part 2

Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship. My Mother-in-Law Came From a Different Place. The daughter-in-law/ mother-in-law relationship has been a dream for me. My mother-in-law came from a different place and a different time, her ideas were different from mine, but we had to put our differences aside. This was my family, my husband, my children, my home etc. and although I respected her opinion, I was still the one in control of my own...

Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship. Part 1

The Daughter-in-Law/Mother-in-Law Relationship Has it's Challenges. Setting off on the Right Foot.     The daughter-in-law/mother-in-aw relationship has its challenges and is a delicate balance that needs to be well orchestrated. Being a daughter-in-law has its challenges just as being a mother-in-law has. As a daughter-in-law I had a few lessons to learn in order to have a good relationship with my mother-in-law. I believe however, that...

The Mother-in Law/Daughter-in-Law Relationship. Part 2

She is Your Daughter-in-Law, Not Your Daughter. It May Not be The Relationship we Expect it to be.     There is certainly a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship, however, it is not necessarily going to be relationship we expect it to be. The one significant thing I had to learn to understand, "she is not my daughter. She is my daughter-in-law, not my daughter. This is an adult woman and is her own person. Our lives have newly...

The Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law Relationship” Part 1

              Mother-in-Law /Daughter-in-Law Relationship The Difference Between Conversing With My Sons and/or My Daughter-in Law. The mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is more familiar to me than the mother-in-law/son-in-law relationship, so I will focus on it. However, some of the same issues apply to both, it's just a bit different when it comes to women. I have been a mother-in-law since 2005, and...

There is no Love in Manipulation.

        There is no Love in Manipulation.   There is no love in manipulation because it is a vicious act that people use to get their own way. Manipulation, is way of getting others to do for us what we want them to do, in a sneaky, nasty and /or aggressive manner. All of us are vulnerable to the manipulator and we may, in fact be the manipulators in our relationships. We need to know and understand the traits of the...

Grandparents and Love. Part 2

. Does A Grandparents Have the Right to Interfere With the Raising of a Grandchild? A grandparents love may be a very important part of a child's life, but it usually is not essential. My sons saw the mistakes I made as a parent and so did I, therefore, they have every right to do the parenting in their own way. If, however, my grandchildren were in an abusive situation, I would have the responsibility to speak up. And that is the only time I...