♥ Mature Love 7 ♥

♥ Mature love understands the importance of forgiveness
♥ Finally, after years of having to be right
♥ Being “right” doesn’t benefit anyone
♥ Once the issue is sorted out

Mature love understands the importance of forgiveness and of knowing that being “right” has no business in a loving relationship. And yet we do this all the time. We just have to be right don’t we? If he says “black” – we say “white”, if he says “yes” – we say “no”, if he says “today” – we say “tomorrow”, ok so you get the message. The question is, “why do we do this?” Why doo we feel that we have to be right? We treat one another like we are at war and each argument as a little battle that has to be won, as if we get points for winning an argument.

Finally, after years of having to be right, I have come to a place where it just doesn’t matter anymore. What is really important now is coming to some kind of agreement- even if it is to agree to disagree. I’m really fussy about my clothes matching – even my underwear need to match my outerwear (how anal is that), not so with Brian. It drives me crazy – he just doesn’t get it – and I don’t get why he doesn’t get it. We finally came to a place where we had to agree to disagree. We are both adult individuals and have a right to dress as we choose to. To be honest though we still haven’t quite settled this one yet – I think the problem is that we see the way we dress as a reflection on the other and are both shallow enough to care what other people think.

Being “right” doesn’t benefit anyone because in the end – nobody really cares if you’re right or not – because everybody is too busy believing that they are right anyway. It’s ridiculous and ends up causing more conflicts. Sort out the issue and if you’re wrong – admit it – and please be big enough not to gloat if your partner ends up admitting that he is wrong. Make up, leave the issue behind and move on.

Once the issue is sorted out it should never crop up again. Just thank your lucky stars that it has been banished out of your lives for good – that should make your burdens lighter. And remember no one is perfect – including you. We all need to accept the others’ need to be who they are, if we see those things as imperfections, that is our problem – not theirs. Acceptance helps us to understand and to forgive more readily. It’s easier to face the issues at hand when we know we aren’t being judged for who we are.


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