♥ Mature Love 2 ♥

♥ Mature love is not based on feelings alone
♥ We got a bit older
♥ Some of these people were getting married
♥ I also knew plenty of girls

Mature love is not based on feelings alone, but on a decision to love. As we matured a bit more in our teen years our ideas of being in love didn’t change a whole lot. We still figured if he was kind to us, if he was cute, and if we had all of the right feelings, then we believed, we must be in love. So we listened to more music, we read romance novels/magazines, watched a lot of TV, watched as other teens had babies and ran to the alter to get married, in effect we based our ideas of love on fantasy.

We got a bit older and realized our some of our friends and other people we knew were doing drugs, drinking, and having sex. We figured we had to do the same, so that we wouldn’t be excluded from the crowd, some looked like they were in love and we wanted those things too, so we did the same as everyone else was doing. We were so immature and so foolish; we made mistake after mistake, and still believed we knew it all. We sometimes got into a whole lot of trouble, some of us getting used by people we thought cared for us, I knew several girls who were raped and nothing was ever done about it. We lost respect for ourselves, on the other hand some were getting along just fine, and many were making a complete mess of their lives. It was a learning process and we had to go through it in order to grow up.

Some of these people were getting married straight out of high school- some no older than 16, I know of at least 3 of those people, one of those marriages stood the test of time, how, I have no idea, I doubt maturity played much of a role in it, but hey, they did it. I agree some were very mature for their age, but mostly they were not. Guess this one couple got lucky, I’m proud of them to say the least; marriage isn’t easy even when you are old enough and mature enough to take the plunge. Knowing what it takes for a marriage to succeed in this age, I am baffled as to how these two pimpled faced teens made it through their first 6 months, non-the-less 36 years. I suppose they grew up together and learned the rules along the way. I never see these people so I have no idea what kind of a relationship they have. Many people I know who have been married this long are absolutely miserable, however, some in their glory and wouldn’t have it any other way. So this couple could be in blissful heaven for all I know.

I also knew plenty of girls who ended up pregnant and alone. Most of these girls ended up going through an unwanted pregnancy on their own, often having to live either at home so mom and dad could help raise their children, ended up giving their babies up for adoption, or ended up having an abortion. I knew plenty of girls who were raped and ended up having to live with it for the rest of their lives. In any case I was in good company with girls who ended up with more on their plates than they bargained for. From what I can see things haven’t changed too much in the past 30 years. Even though the pill is widely utilized, unwanted pregnancies abound, many raise their babies, and some do an amazing job, better than some so called mature individuals, but many are still aborted. It seems the girls in this situation are younger, some 12 and 13 years old, 30 years ago most of the girls I knew who ended up pregnant were between 17 and 21.

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