♥ Mature Love 1 ♥

 ♥ Mature love knows

 ♥ When we were just little girls

 ♥ As we grow into our teen years

 ♥ That crush wasn’t developed

 

Mature love knows that “love” does not happen over night (at least mostly never). Mature love takes time to develop, Attraction plays a huge roll in the process, pheromones play a roll, our frame of mind, and where we are physically, meaning location in the world or our environment, all play a roll on the road to love. A whole lot of things are going on in and around us when we become attracted to someone.

  

                                                                 

When we were just little girls we were generally attracted to kindness, if someone was kind to us we would sometimes think we had a crush on that person, and these crushes were not always for the opposite sex. Our idea of being in love was therefore based on kindness alone. Most of us were lucky and we were not harmed by someone taking advantage of our immature feelings for them, some of us would have followed our love interests anywhere and done anything for them. Because of their kindness toward us, we believed they loved us too and it never entered our minds that they would ever harm us. I am not too clear on how little boys developed crushes at that tender age, but I assume they probably had some of the same experiences with deep feelings such as ours. I had my first real crush at 6 years of age, and I’ll never forget it, he sure was a cutie pie.

As we grow into our teen years our ideas of love were primarily based on looks. If we found some guy we thought was both kind and cute and felt attracted, we were pretty well hooked, even if it was only for a few days. Perhaps we fell for a favorite teacher, a doctor or some other person who influenced us as we were growing up.This is what my mom called “puppy love” and usually made comments about how silly I was, which wasn't a very smart move on her part. It may not be a mature kind of love, however it is serious enough to affect us and parents should considered those feelings and not poke fun. We got our ideas about love by watching our parents interact, by listening to music and making decisions based on the lyrics that we heard day after day, we read books and watched TV, believing that what we read and saw was for real. We probably assumed that when we developed a crush on someone who affected us so much that we couldn’t think about anything else couldn’t concentrate on anything else and couldn’t sleep, then we must be in love.

 

That crush wasn’t developed because of a wonderful personality or on integrity; it was more about looks and popularity. How many of us had crushes on TV and movie personalities or musicians we heard on radio? All that truly mattered was that our emotions were in charge, but emotions are not enough to base love upon.

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